For many people, ‘we are all one’ is an interesting catch-phrase and certainly something we should aspire towards, but it is fraught with doubt and uncertainty, as the powerful illusion of materiality and our separateness seems to predominate our perception and impacts the systems of belief we live by.
Perfect. All is as it should be, for we are here in this 3rd Density reality precisely to have a rich, sensual experience of dense materiality as part of our soul’s journey to self-realization, which ultimately culminates in the direct apperception that we are all the same ‘self’.
That said, it may be instructive to the process for us to come to understand how ET civilizations who are more highly evolved organize themselves, as an inspiration for us to continue along in our consciousness journey. It may even spur small changes in the way we conduct our personal lives that reflect our growing understanding of our underlying unity as human beings.
First, though, we have to conceive of society as being very different from the one most of us are currently experiencing. At present we are in large, impersonal ‘communities’ within our societies which we can’t rely on to serve our needs. In effect, since we don’t even know most of the people in the community–good people, for the most part–there is an inherent mistrust in them and their motives. We gather in our smaller groups of shared interests, of course, like soccer teams and bridge clubs, but other than those few who still enjoy being part of a traditional large extended family, we are not really familiar with the experience of having a large group of people who are, by nature, prepared to tend to the needs of all individuals within. But what if we were? How would our basic needs be served differently?
The Raising Of Children
To begin with, fundamental aspects of societal development, like how children are raised, could be done completely differently, in a way that best accommodates the lives of both the children and the parents. In his bestselling trilogy Conversations With God, Neal Donald Walsch touches upon the discussion of how, in advanced civilizations, young parents of children are not considered to be the best qualified in their communities to raise their offspring, as they have hardly emerged from childhood themselves:
In highly evolved cultures, children don’t raise children. Offspring are given to elders to raise. This doesn’t mean that new offspring are torn from those who gave them life, taken from their arms and given to virtual strangers to raise. It is nothing like that. In these cultures, elders live closely with the young ones. They are not shuffled off to live by themselves. They are not ignored, and left to work out their own final destinies. They are honored, revered, and held close, as part of a loving, caring, vibrant community.
When a new offspring arrives, the elders are right there, deep within the heart of that community and that family, and their raising of the offspring is as organically correct as it feels in your society to have the parents do this. The difference is that, though they always know who their “parents” are—the closest term in their language would be “life-givers”—these offspring are not asked to learn about the basics of life from beings who are still learning about the basics of life themselves. In highly evolved societies, the elders organize and supervise the learning process, as well as housing, feeding, and caring for the children. Offspring are raised in an environment of wisdom and love, great, great patience, and deep understanding.
The young ones who gave them life are usually off somewhere, meeting the challenges and experiencing the joys of their own young lives. They may spend as much time with their offspring as they choose. They may even live in the Dwelling of the Elders with the children, to be right there with them in a “home” environment, and to be experienced by them as part of it. It is all a very unified, integrated experience. But it is the elders who do the raising, who take the responsibility. And it is an honor, for upon the elders is placed the responsibility for the future of the entire species. And in highly evolved societies, it is recognized that this is more than should be asked of young ones.
The implications of this are far-reaching, not only for the children, but the child-bearers as well:
In your society you have insisted on making child-bearers responsible for child raising—with the result that you’ve made not only the process of parenting very difficult, but distorted many of the energies surrounding the sexual act as well as.
Many humans have observed what I’ve observed here. Namely, that a good many humans—perhaps most—are not truly capable of raising children when they are capable of having them. However, having discovered this, humans have put in place exactly the wrong solution.
Rather than allow younger humans to enjoy sex, and if it produces children, have the elders raise them, you tell young humans not to engage in sex until they are ready to take on the responsibility of raising children. You have made it “wrong” for them to have sexual experiences before that time, and thus have created a taboo around what was intended to be one of life’s most joyful celebrations.
Of course, this is a taboo to which offspring will pay little attention—and for good reason: it is entirely unnatural to obey it. Human beings desire to couple and copulate as soon as they feel the inner signal which says they are ready. This is human nature.
In the natural order of your species, sexuality is budding at anywhere from age 9 to age 14. From age 15 onward it is very much present and expressing in most human beings. Thus begins a race against time—with children stampeding toward the fullest release of their own joyful sexual energy, and parents stampeding to stop them. Parents have needed all the assistance and all the alliances they could find in this struggle, since, as has been noted, they are asking their offspring to not do something that is every bit a part of their nature.
Benefits To Society Itself
Rather than being part of a social order that works so hard to suppress sexual desires on the part of young people, wouldn’t we want to be contributing to the free expression of what is beautiful and natural? Do we fear that this will lead to sexual deviance and inappropriate behavior? I believe the opposite is true. In fact, paving the way for freedom of sexual expression based on instinct and nature also could give many reciprocal benefits back to the society:
In any society where producing offspring at a young age is not considered “wrong”— because the tribal elders raise them and there is, therefore, no sense of overwhelming responsibility and burden—sexual repression is unheard of, and so is rape, deviance, and social-sexual dysfunction.
Imagine being part of a society that was no longer subject to the types of dysfunctions that come from sexual repression and the various emotions associated with thwarted sexual desires. Imagine if all the pretension and posturing around sexual engagement were dropped, how much more relaxed and connected we’d feel.
A Return To Community
Of course, none of this is a suggestion that we are able to immediately throw caution to the wind in terms of the sexual expression of our young, given our current social structure. We first have to examine the fact that we have moved away from organizing ourselves through self-supporting tribes, clans, and communities as some of our traditional societies did in the past. Somehow, we became convinced that ‘progress’ meant living in big cities where not only are people disconnected from each other, but elders are pushed over to the side, without any role in maintaining the knowledge and guiding principles the society had developed over time.
Let’s think about moving more towards extra-familial groups that provide comprehensive support for all its members. Seeing that this is how many advanced extraterrestrial civilizations live, perhaps we now have more we can look forward to as we work towards building a more evolved community, society, and world.
About The Author
My Master’s thesis on “The Anatomy of Self-Overcoming in Nietzsche” was only the beginning of my journey of exploration into consciousness. I have since lived and taught in Korea, studied yoga in India, written a book entitled “Parables for the New Conversation”, built a film and theater production company (pandorasboxoffice.ca), and started a family. While I endeavor to foster positive change in the world through my works, I hold fast to CE’s maxim ‘Change starts within’. I am humbled and grateful to have joined the CE team as of April 2018 as a contributing writer. You can reach me at email@example.com